I received this gem in e-mail just moments ago…
How dare you call someone who lost their child stupid? What is wrong with you? Do you think of yourself so highly that being a good person, sensitive to others grief is unneccesary? In fact, that 19 month old boy got a hold of that part while he should have been napping and in some bizarre accident choked upon it. The mother thought her child was safely asleep in his bed. She had no time to react, she thought he was napping. Not all toys for older children are for older children b/c of choking hazards. The doctors who worked to save that child’s life admitted that it seemed impossible for him to choke on that piece but yet he did. You said yourself that your 4 y.o. could barely fit it into his mouth, why would a mom with a younger child think such a thing would even be possible? Instead of judging people who have grief that you probably can not begin to understand, show some class and compassion. If anyone is stupid its not those parents but people like you that write blogs without thinking the pain it could cause. How would you feel if the mother of these children happened across this? Do you not think they have enough pain and guilt on their hearts without someone openly mocking that pain? What is wrong with you?
This e-mail was in response to my post about stupid parents. So let’s break this down and address the issues, shall we…
How dare you call someone who lost their child stupid? What is wrong with you? Do you think of yourself so highly that being a good person, sensitive to others grief is unneccesary?
How dare you point the finger at me Miss High and Mighty. What is wrong with you? You know nothing about me, whether or not I am a good person or whether or not I am sensitive to others grief. Do you think of yourself so highly that you can assume you know such things? The grief caused by the death of your child does not automatically release you from accountability when your child dies.
If a drunk driver wrecks and kills their own child should we remain silent to be “senstive” to them in their time of grief? If someone has guns in the house and doesn’t lock them up, should we remain silent when one child shoots the other, because they are grieving?
I never said the parents of the two children in question intended for their children to die, but they did die, and they did so because their parents were irresponsible.
In fact, that 19 month old boy got a hold of that part while he should have been napping and in some bizarre accident choked upon it. The mother thought her child was safely asleep in his bed. She had no time to react, she thought he was napping. Not all toys for older children are for older children b/c of choking hazards. The doctors who worked to save that child’s life admitted that it seemed impossible for him to choke on that piece but yet he did. You said yourself that your 4 y.o. could barely fit it into his mouth, why would a mom with a younger child think such a thing would even be possible?
That 19 month old boy would not have “got a hold of that part” if the parents followed the package recommendation. “Ages 3 and up” does not mean “Ages 3 and up, except for you parents of 19 month olds”. They put those recommendations on the packaging for a reason, not necessarily for choking hazards, but for reasons nonetheless. What part of that is so hard to comprehend?
The child of the drunk driver would still be alive if he never got drunk, and my nephew would still be alive if his father had locked up his guns. So don’t talk to me about grief.
It doesn’t matter if the mother thought such a thing was possible, it would have been impossible if she had simply followed the recommendation clearly marked on the package.
The truth is, people make mistakes, they make bad judgement calls, and someone else pays for it. It’s sad really. A lot of innocent people have died because of stupid mistakes.
Instead of judging people who have grief that you probably can not begin to understand, show some class and compassion.
I have nothing but the deepest compassion where this case is concerned. My initial post was done specifically to raise awareness so other parents who may be ignoring such package recommendations may take a few moments and remove the items that could be so potentially dangerous to their own children. I stand by my assertion with this recall. The item is not the issue, it’s the parents who ignore the age recommendation because they think it does not apply to their child.
It’s a shame these two children had to die, but if my words can prevent one more death, then I have succeeded in my effort. Haven’t I?
Sometimes you have to sound harsh and be blunt to get your message across. Sometimes you have no choice.
It’s not always easy getting the keys from a drunk driver, but when you do, you can rest easy that someone else will not die at their hands that night. Sometimes people just don’t know what they are supposed to do, sometimes until it’s too late.
My nephews father never thought he should be locking up his firearms. It never dawned on him that those two young children would ever find them, until it was too late.
We cannot continue to turn a blind eye when these events occur. We cannot remain silent. Silence begets silence and of no one speaks out for the children who will? There are no laws regulating the age recommendations (and there shouldn’t be). If guilt is what is needed to make people understand the seriousness of the situation, then so be it.
If anyone is stupid its not those parents but people like you that write blogs without thinking the pain it could cause. How would you feel if the mother of these children happened across this? Do you not think they have enough pain and guilt on their hearts without someone openly mocking that pain?
Ouch. Now that hurts. Mocking and insulting me and trying to make me feel guilty in a feeble effort to turn the tables and redirect the focus of attention. Nice try. It didn’t work. I didn’t cause the death of my child by allowing him to play with a toy 17 months before he should have been. Believe me, as a parent I have enough guilt of my own to deal with, without allowing you to place more on my shoulders because you assume to be more sensitive. You just proved the first point I made in my response. Rather than focus on the problem you choose to point fingers, because it’s easier.
No problem. You stick to your low road. The view from up here is quite nice.
What is wrong with you?
There’s plenty wrong with me. My back hurts, my shoulder is killing me, I miss my nephew everyday, and I can’t seem to control this aging thing. Thanks for asking. Keep in touch now, will ya?
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